A new 2014 study has found that finding pleasure in chores and work can boost self-control and willpower.
Psychologists say that when we turn our “have-to’s” into “want-to’s” we become much more motivated to actually do productive activities and work toward our goals.
So instead of telling yourself…
“I have to start going to the gym.”
“I have to start studying more for school.”
“I have to start being nicer to people.”
Transform it into:
“I want to start going to the gym.”
“I want to start studying more for school.”
“I want to start being nicer to people.”
One of the big themes I write about is how important the way we talk to ourselves is – this is just one more powerful example.
When you “have” to do something, it becomes an obligation. We see it as work and it makes it seem less fun and enjoyable.
But when you “want” to do something, it becomes a desire. We see it as play and entertainment – so we are much more driven to do it.
What “have-to’s” are in your life? How can you start thinking of these as “want-to’s?”
Being able to make that shift in perspective makes a huge difference in your happiness and success.
Reframing is one of the most important tools in self improvement for changing anything about your life.
People who are successful in life are really good at reframing “work” into “play.” But this just begins to touch on the power of reframing your thoughts.
In psychology, there is a type of therapy known as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) that uses reframing as one of it’s primary techniques in helping individuals overcome depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses.
Anyone can benefit from learning these tools and techniques. And when you begin to take more of a “reframing” attitude in your life, there isn’t any event or situation that you can’t overcome in some way.
Reframing your perspective is something we can all benefit from more. It’s a technique that I’ve been practicing for almost a decade now and it has led to dramatic changes in how happy I am and how I live my life.
Do you want to learn how to change your thoughts? Do you want to be better able to change your perspective in any given situation? Do you want to learn how to use these tools in psychology to benefit your life?